Warning and Time out
Marielle is in regular Young Fives class setting with 22 other children.
In class they have to behave appropriately or else there will be a warning three warnings then you will be in time out!!
Teacher: Okay young fivers lets get to our learning position (sitting down cross legs hands in front and all ears listening to the teacher)
Marielle: in the classroom literally but her mind is somewhere else ..... where?? nobody knows.
Teacher: we have some parents who volunteer for center games today....
Marielle: look at the teacher and listen to what she is talking (I think she got her when she said the word games) then she lost her again.
Here is what I thought Marielle is not understanding all the words the teacher is saying or she knows some words but doesn't really understand the meaning yet ....
(I am originally from the Philippines we move here in the U.S. six years ago English is not my first language and my words are limited ..... so you have to excuse me when I'm using a wrong grammar.... correction is appreciated.)
lets go back to Marielle in the class .... it's hard for her to just sit down, focus and listen to the teacher she was moving a lot and looking everywhere and rock herself a little bit (I think in Autism word they call it stimming) she didn't stand up or jump or disturb the class..... until one boy in the class make a silly noise
Boy: oink oink (everybody laughed remember they are 5 yrs old even I laughed.)
Marielle: oink oink (giggling so hard.... turns to a laughter and getting louder)
Teacher: pssst.....we are in zero voice level now class.
Marielle: still laughing and keep saying oink oink she can't stop herself she is having too much fun.
Teacher: Marielle zero voice level now......
Marielle: still laughing and keep saying oink oink she is not hearing the teacher.
Teacher: Marielle zero voice level now.....
She got a warning slip that day she was getting a lot of warning slips since last week but today I saw what happened I was there in the class for a while...... I'm not angry at the teacher because she is giving her a warning and time out I understand she has a classroom rule and I respect that.
I sent her an email and told her I want to talk to her about the warning slip.
I went to the school and talk to her she said that Marielle is mimicking some boy in the class and that she can't stop herself she was having too much fun and she said she is not the one starting a noise. I ask her when she is warning her how does she tell her? because I don't think Marielle understand or the zero voice level is in her brain .... ( like pushing Michael we tell her all the time but she keeps doing it! ) she said I told her zero voice level ..... (but if she is giggling or laughing so hard she is not hearing her) then she ask me "what do you do to stop her?"........... well that is a tough question!! let's see it depends if she is in her meltdown screaming to the top of her lungs, crying, jumping up and down saying NO NO NO Mommy!! because she can't get what she wants I don't have a choice than to calm her down (hugging her tight while rocking her gently and saying okay okay calm down which she will ) then I will talk to her say "I'm sorry you cannot have it right now" and I will explain why .....
If she is playing with Michael she like to poke him gently or give him a tickle I will tell her "Marielle that's dangerous you might hurt your brother" but she is having fun and I don't think she can hear me so I will go in front of her call her name and make her look at me and I will tell her "STOP POKING MICHAEL" then she will stop...... 5, 15 minutes later she will do it again.....
I ask her teacher what does she do if she's in timeout? does she stay or scream? and she said Marielle does not complain if I tell her that you need to stay here until your timeout is over and she will stay and be calm wait for me to tell her timeout is over.
We try to give her a time out here at home...she get's so excited while playing with Michael she will push him or sometimes he will take her toy and she will push him so we're trying to control her inappropriate behaviour she got a timeout for pushing Michael her Papa put her in the corner and told her to sit, be quiet for four mins. she was screaming on the top of her lungs.....and keep standing up and saying Marielle will walk and play!!!!!! she was not listening because she is having a meltdown she cannot help it!!! so I went to her and calm her down hugging her tight, rubbing her hair and rocking her gently she get to calm down I explain to her what she did is not acceptable and I put a clock in front of her 9:16 when the clock reach 9:20 you will be free and be able to play she didn't get it the first time but I told her again and she ask me to countdown with her so countdown together until she was free :)
We all want to discipline our children but in our case autism parents we have to try harder, give more hugs and lots of love and patience, patience, and patience.
I'll tell you a secret I love to calm her down it's my greatest accomplishment :)